a time for everything

Happy snowstorm day. I love how when Mother Nature decides that we aren't doing anything today, we aren't doing anything today. Like when your body gets sick, you have no choice but to rest. 

There is a time for everything. A season for everything. When you are able to listen closely, to your body, to your intuition, the flow guides you correctly with little to no effort. 

Like a hand on your shoulder, guiding you towards one direction or the other. You feel it and you move. 

When we are out of synchronicity with the flow of life, we face an opposing force everywhere we turn. We push against the hand with all of our might. Like kicking against the current. 

But the current doesn't change. Neither does the way of alignment. What is true is that which never changes. You are always only one decision away from alignment. One decision away from working with the flow instead of against it. If you are tired of suffering, decide that you want to stop suffering. 

The largest inhibitor of living in alignment is shame. Not for everyone in every culture, but we are not everyone in every culture. We are Americans living in 2026. If you've never been deprived of basic needs- food, water, shelter- you don't have a fear block, you have a shame block. 

As a culture we carry the belief that life is hard. That work is hard. That we don’t deserve rest unless we’ve worked past the point of exhaustion.

But the only folks who benefit from this cultural ethos are the rich ones who own the companies. And P.S those people rest whenever they want.

If other people can love their career, their relationships and themselves why can't you? Why are things allowed to be easy for some people but not for you? Some people are just lucky and you just aren't? They just had better circumstances? You are just eternally the victim? 

Shame tells us that there is something wrong with us. Something about us individually, uniquely is why we aren't allowed to live our dream life. 

Truth is absolutely everybody has had circumstances that could have kept them down. The only difference is whether you are able to take responsibility for what you can do or not. 

Shame tells us that there is nothing we can do to make things better. 

Shame tells us that we will not be loved if people knew the truth about us. “If they knew that I love blank, they would think I'm so weird.” “If they knew that I was blank, they would laugh at me.” “I am not blank enough.” “I can never be blank enough.” “I'm too blank.”  “I am not blank enough.” “My body should be blank but instead it is blank.”  “I need to be more blank to have blank.” “I need to be less blank to have blank.” 

You get what I’m saying.

When you shine awareness into the areas that you shame yourself you will easily find examples of lives and people that directly counter your false, shame based beliefs.

You can find an example to counter absolutely every statement you made above, I would bet my life on it. 

You feel like you are too lazy to be rich? I know millionaires that only work 3 hours a day.

You feel like you aren’t attractive enough for your dream man? Look at Aaron Taylor Johnson’s wife.

So if the defect that you thought was the root of your unhappiness (“I am not blank enough”)  is not actually the cause, what is? 

The meaning that you are assigning to the defect.

The story is the belief system and the belief system is the source code that your reality repeats. If the story that you have written around something is not an empowering one, you are the source of your own limitation.

You don’t have what you want because you have a deep belief that you are not worthy of having it. But there is nothing actually written saying that you aren’t worthy! You are worthy! Belief systems start in childhood and are perpetuated through our lived cycles. You don't have to live your life as a reflection of your upbringing.

Life does not have to feel boring. Or chaotic. Or hard. You just have written a story. And your experience is always a self fulfilling process.

You decide and the world shifts. The belief system is the code. And thoughts create the belief system.

So decide better. Think better thoughts.

When you entertain the idea that life is supposed to be easy and fun. You will begin seeing proof of it. What is the best for ourselves is also what is best for others. 

Belief shapes perception. Perception is reality. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, except the faulty belief that you have something wrong with you. You are not so special as to have something wrong with you and only you. This world is way too big, the Universe is way too busy. 

Nothing changes until the way you see things changes. If you're ready to see the good, start now.

What are 10 beautiful or lovely things about this moment for you, right now? 

I'll go first.

I am so comfy in my bed rn. I feel healthy and well. I love my work. I have tons of food in my fridge. My brother is safe at home. I’m wearing my retainer and am so blessed to have straight teeth. I am 26 and my body is super tea. My candle smells beautiful. I can watch any movie I want after this. The snow makes everything quiet. I love my car. I love my space heater. I love tea. 

Now you.

 Keep focusing on the good.  Keep noticing negative thoughts and rewriting them.

Change is the only constant. Suffering doesn't last. 

Stay warm cuties.